Friday, October 30, 2009
Help me Auntie Anne! I'm troubled
I'm very depressed.. Depressed over my tenant Lisa. In fact, I couldn't sleep well the whole night. Only managed to sleep about 3am.
Actually it's all our fault that we didn't make things clearly when Lisa came for viewing. Lisa is a SIA girl and was the one officially looking for a place. Alvin, whom Lisa claimed wasn't really her boyfriend then, came along with her during the viewing. We asked if he will be staying over and she said no cos he goes back to Malaysia everyday. The impression that we get then was that they were probably not in a staple relationship yet. Considering the fact that she's going to fly around quite often and we are renting to one person, we don't mind to downrate our rent from our previous $750 to her budget of $550. But we did one thing wrong. Daniel told her that Alvin can stay over once in a while if he has to.
So on the day when Lisa moved in, we gave her two sets of keys but she didn't want to give one set to Alvin. The contract also clearly indicates that we only rent out to one tenant, Lisa. On our set of terms and conditions, we also indicated very clearly that no bringing back and overnight staying of friends.
Things were ok initially until Alvin came over to help Lisa run some errands and he stayed overnight without Lisa around, saying that he will fetching Lisa from the airport early in the morning. So we didn't say much then. However since then, I guess their relationship has progressed and Lisa gave Alvin the keys and he started staying overnight every time Lisa is around.
There were even a couple of times when he came home suddenly when Lisa wasn't around in Singapore. I was caught by surprised because I wasn't expecting anyone to be around in the house since Daniel was in reservist too. So I quickly went back into the room to change into something more appropriate with only me & a man around.
Lisa alone is fine. At least she is a girl. But I really don't feel uncomfortable with a man at home, uncomfortable at the fact that there is a couple living in my house. I mean.. what could they be doing in the room, sometimes I can't help but wonder, especially when I'm home alone. It really torments me a lot sometimes.
And there is also another issue. Considering the fact that she's a SIA gal, we decide not to impose a "only on the aircon at night" policy on her since she may come back in the morning or afternoon. But we did tell her right from the first day, that if she around for a few days, please don't on the aircon for long hours. However from our observation, especially since Alvin (who is a free-lance Interior Designer) has been staying over, they can on the aircon for the whole day! We have been tracking our utility bill and the electricity they are using is equivalent to the usage of four of my previous tenants before we moved in. This is ridiculous since Lisa is not even in Singapore everyday. Deducting their utility usage, we are barely making $10plus a day!
With all these issues, I feel frustrated because I'm compromising too much privacy for too little $. Sometimes I can't help but to feel regrets.
I wanna stop this entire renting dinggy!!!! But Daniel feels that it is too early to stop since he has just moved over to the bank and has not stabilized in his job. He knows my frustration and he wants me to talk to Lisa about it. But it's so difficult cos Alvin is always around.
Screaming out!!!! Can anyone understand my dilemma?Everytime I'm frustrated, I want to talk to Daniel and I know that talking again and again won't make any changes unless we make an action -
- Either to tell them we don't want to rent anymore (Not stable now) OR
- To tell them about Alvin & electricity (but I'm sure there will be confrontations and I'm not courageous to tell her myself) OR
- Make them pay more rental but this will give Alvin the right to stay when Lisa is not around, which is definitely not what I want.
Two nights ago just when I thought that Lisa is alone finally for a night, I wanted to go down to the kitchen in my sleeping attire. Daniel was telling me don't need to put on my bathrobe to cover my sleeping attire (nothing sneezy, just less materials) but I went ahead with my bathrobe. Just when we least expected him to be around at
1am, he was standing at the main door as I was walking down the stairs. Luckily I was in my bathrobe!!!
So I hinted him:
"Hey nowadays you don't need to go back to M'sia ah?"Alvin:
"Oh no lah, cos tonight work late."In my mind i was thinking,
"Please la.. 1am leh! What a lame excuse.. you are staying here everyday!"Man being man, although they know you are angry and sad, but they don't want to hear the same thing again & again. Daniel was tired and slept. I was left awake alone the whole night, couldn't sleep becos I can't talk to anyone. I was so depressed, I cried.
I want to work hard for the next two months and earn more $$$! But meanwhile can someone be my Auntie Anne and counsel my emotions? I'm overwhelmed...
Karen Yeo Smiles at |1:31 PM|
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